Happy Valentine's Daddy...

Respecting the Children...

On Children
Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor worries with yesterday.

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I remember reading this long before the thought of children even came into my mind. I believe I was drawn to this because I grew up when none of the above applied. You were your parents children and that is the way it was...Simply, because they said so. Children really didn't have much to say until they reached early adulthood. We had to go play outside, go to another room or sit at a different table and rarely made a comment that would cause a huge response to any of the adults in the room. I asked someone at dinner ( a therapist and mother of two very well adjusted human beings) the other night how to effectively set boundaries with your children because I'm feeling a little sprucing up could help in that area..And this person said "I raised my children showing them the respect that I never received growing up as a child and always longed for." and I realized the above verse was about respecting the world of children while setting consistent boundaries. I think I'm getting it, until the next stage occurs.
It is my goal to always remember that Mia will have thoughts and ideas far away from me, but she is the person she is and I trust the power of respect enough already to know she will be just fine. I'll try as best I can to listen to her in all her infinite knowledge that someone on this earth (say 4 or 5 years) will have by that time.

Happy 2nd Birthday Mia!

We celebrated Mia's birthday on 1/29/2007 among moving boxes,
paint buckets and lots of cleaning supplies. We pushed everything to the end
of the table and gathered around for a little celebration. I kept thinking of her 1st birthday when everything was so planned and organized and I was home with her every day. Now, one year later things have changed so much. Knowing her made both Dennis and I want to reconnect with our family and share our experiences. She has been such a trooper over the last year with me going back to work and a big move to a new city. Through it all she has stayed the gentle little soul that she is..so kind. All I kept thinking was that we succeeded in keeping her safe and happy for another year. Our daughter is 2 and it has been the best two years of our life knowing her.
I promised myself that I would wear the earrings her birth mother gave her the day of the adoption on every birthday until she could receive them as a gift. I was lucky to find them among the boxes, but just wearing them made me happy for both of them.
 

Mia and Daddy Celebrate with Dora

 

The chef tasting her efforts  

Back in St. Louis

Hello Everyone:

I had a great trip in Minneapolis and was able to mix business with pleasure. I really missed Mia and was afraid I wouldn't get back before the ice storm. I was a little delayed, but made it back okay. I stayed over to attend Natasha's baby shower. She is by far the cutest pregnant woman I have ever seen. Natasha was so supportive during my process with Mia and being an amazing artist/photographer, I have some pretty wonderful and special photos during that time. I'm so happy for her and Ladric and I know baby Aria will have the best parents can offer. I was also able to see baby Lucca and Mia's best pal Mel. Made a stop to Pizza Nea with Kate, Kellie and Leah. I really miss everyone. It feels good to be back in Minneapolis. It is such a great city. I did a drive by the old house. Seems so strange to see someone else living in our house. Maybe it wouldn't be so bad if I had a house of my own right now.

Thanks Karen & Denis for all your hospitality...even if you did try to give me curdled milk and corn muffins at 8:00 am. Not to mention your billy goat/cat, Oliver.

Hello Lily

It was so good to see Ms. Lily on Saturday night. She is so adorable and was in amazement at Mia's (sometimes) unlady-like behavior.

Where's Mia?

Our current baby keeping us up at night

I thought I would share a few pictures of our house project so you could get a visual of the current state.
I'm not much of a visionary, so I've been doing other things like drinking lots of wine and staying far away. If we stick to the schedule, I'll send new updated pics in a couple of weeks when it should be finished....hmmmm.
Enjoy!

Downstairs bathroom/kitchen

A few more pictures

Here is our dining room

Why?

would anyone put a plaster wall over beautiful stained glass windows. We just assumed there was quite a bit of water damage and someone decided (years and years ago) to cover up the two windows in the living room. When we tore the wall down, we found two wonderful little windows behind plywood in great shape. So odd.

another view of the new house

Happy New Year

Happy New Year from the McGraths-
We are thinking of all our friends and family as the holiday season comes to a close. It has been a busy one for us. The house is moving along and we are becoming more and more familiar with the city. Mia is becoming so hilarious. She is very animated and is mimicking everything. I really mean everything. Mommy needs to be lots nicer to daddy now that she is picking up everything :)
We hope you have a safe and healthy 2007 filled with lots of great moments. We can't wait to share 2007 with Miss Pearl. Mia stills yells 'no' everytime we mention Pearl's name.
I have a feeling it will be that way for years to come.

the new house

mia's first visit with santa...

yes, we made it...

goodbye to 4049...

"the last supper"

We're Back

Hello everyone-
We've been absent for quite some time now and I'm sitting in the Minneapolis airport with a bit of a delay. Things have been very busy over the last couple of months. We've moved, closed on our house and are in the midst of construction. We plan to move into the house sometime in January. We're staying in corporate housing right now. Mia is adjusting really well. She is the funniest person I know right now and am really having fun hanging out with her. We just received new pictures of Ms. Pearl. She is looking more and more like Mia to us. I'll update this weekend with some pics of the Lou for all our Minnesota friends. Happy Holidays to everyone and we are really looking forward to a great 2007.