Casa Complete

I'm happy to say that we are officially complete with the 1st phase of the house. The walls are all put back into place, boxes packed away, kitchen and bath areas finished and we are finally starting to get the feel of home. We had an open house on Saturday and it was a great night to sit back and reflect over the last two months. Dennis worked very hard on pulling this together and starting a new job. As always, I don't always get his vision when it comes to architecture, but after it is finished I'm always amazed. He did such a great job creating a great space for us. Thanks to all our friends and family members that helped make this happen so quick.

Lastnight we ordered pizza and watched the Oscars...just like all the other years. I forget how crazy things have been over the last couple months.

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New Picture-New Name

When we decided to adopt the 2nd time, we knew the name would be Pearl. Long story, but we didn't talk about the thought of changing the name or whether we were really feeling Pearl. I was fine with the name until I read an article in Dennis' Details magazine about a couple with two children ( a boy, named Jasper and a girl, named ???) I immediately fell in love with the name and called Dennis to tell him I wanted to change Pearl's name--I told him the name and he thought it was a perfect name. Introducing....Mazlin (Mazzy) Liliana McGrath. I know Mia and Mazzy has a tendency to sound like a cartoon, but we love it and will always think of her as our little Pearl.

Happy Valentine's Daddy...

Respecting the Children...

On Children
Kahlil Gibran

Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams. You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor worries with yesterday.

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I remember reading this long before the thought of children even came into my mind. I believe I was drawn to this because I grew up when none of the above applied. You were your parents children and that is the way it was...Simply, because they said so. Children really didn't have much to say until they reached early adulthood. We had to go play outside, go to another room or sit at a different table and rarely made a comment that would cause a huge response to any of the adults in the room. I asked someone at dinner ( a therapist and mother of two very well adjusted human beings) the other night how to effectively set boundaries with your children because I'm feeling a little sprucing up could help in that area..And this person said "I raised my children showing them the respect that I never received growing up as a child and always longed for." and I realized the above verse was about respecting the world of children while setting consistent boundaries. I think I'm getting it, until the next stage occurs.
It is my goal to always remember that Mia will have thoughts and ideas far away from me, but she is the person she is and I trust the power of respect enough already to know she will be just fine. I'll try as best I can to listen to her in all her infinite knowledge that someone on this earth (say 4 or 5 years) will have by that time.

Happy 2nd Birthday Mia!

We celebrated Mia's birthday on 1/29/2007 among moving boxes,
paint buckets and lots of cleaning supplies. We pushed everything to the end
of the table and gathered around for a little celebration. I kept thinking of her 1st birthday when everything was so planned and organized and I was home with her every day. Now, one year later things have changed so much. Knowing her made both Dennis and I want to reconnect with our family and share our experiences. She has been such a trooper over the last year with me going back to work and a big move to a new city. Through it all she has stayed the gentle little soul that she is..so kind. All I kept thinking was that we succeeded in keeping her safe and happy for another year. Our daughter is 2 and it has been the best two years of our life knowing her.
I promised myself that I would wear the earrings her birth mother gave her the day of the adoption on every birthday until she could receive them as a gift. I was lucky to find them among the boxes, but just wearing them made me happy for both of them.
 

Mia and Daddy Celebrate with Dora

 

The chef tasting her efforts